Connection is our thing, and while we have been working quietly on Collaboration Circles last year, it was only a matter of time that we finally clicked to the potential of connection focused living communities. So we are excited to share progress we are making on what we are calling the Big House Project. This is a housing cooperative under one roof for people with a passion to really connect. For more info see www.thebighouseproject.nz
Hi, we are Sibylle and Peter and we think that Life is Wonderful! Our message is about rediscovering and reinventing human connection. The latest research shows that social bonds are inextricably bound up with health and well-being. When we learn to trust ourselves, to trust others and ultimately to trust life itself, most of the world's problems go away. Our mission is to accompany others on their path as they discover this for themselves.
As a word of warning, the old parts of the brain will often rebel against this material. This is to be expected. Carolynne Myss calls it being loyal to our suffering, Eckhart Tolle calls it identification with our false self. This is because if we mistakenly define ourselves as the sum of our experience, then the past is who 'we' are. This is the voice of the old brain. It feels comfortingly familiar, and, sadly, defines 'normal' life in our society at this time.
Except, our old brains are not the real us, not our true wonderful selves... ripe with potential for harmony, creativity and evolution. Instead, life with the old brain is a bundle of worry, distraction, scarcity, isolation, addiction, drama, and deteriorating health.
Our model looks at the role of the new brain to find safety and true happiness. We are fascinated by the potential of relationships. We work with the Autonomic Nervous System, using Attachment theory, Polyvagal Theory, and Muscle Testing, as well as the latest brain science. We believe this material offers a personal development system that can actually help people move away from anxiety toward real love.
The ANS is the operating system of the body, and it offers a powerful new insight into why sometimes, despite our best efforts, our well-being remains elusive. Understanding how our nervous system works allows us to become partners with it to discover a new sense of health and well-being.
The old brain has an in-built tendency to worry, which evolved to protect us from danger as we struggled through our evolutionary journey. Conversely, we now know that the newer parts of the brain are developing in such a way that the nervous system gains its primary safety and comfort from being connected with others.
This message is a major U-turn for our society. As we move on from the last century's emphasis on heroic individualism, this now means that we can stop trying to do personal development on our own, and instead embark on an upward spiral of increasing connection, increasing well being, increasing social skills capacity.
Source: Deb Dana
When we have trouble with our relationships, it takes the form of faulty core beliefs, which we learnt when we were young. Those beliefs we live our whole adult life with and by. The problem is that we are now grown up. The beliefs served us, as children, as a system of protection. For instance as a child we can not fight with our parents and hope to win, based on size, and we can not run, because we will die. Therefore we shut down various parts of our life, and in its place, create these core beliefs to justify this unhappy situation.
As adults, if we are to find well-being, we have to look at, and rewrite those old beliefs. Then we can truly connect with others. Then we can love. Then we can relax. Then we can say, in truth, that life is indeed wonderful.