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Wednesday evenings in West Auckland

Workshop details

22/7/2020 - 12/08/2020


NB: due to Covid the last three sessions will resume 14 October, same time, same place.


This version of the workshop runs as a series of six consecutive Wednesday evenings, to be held in the Swanson / Ranui area, commencing 22/7/2020.   Arrive at 7:15pm for a 7:30pm start, and ending at 9:30pm. As the workshop only makes sense in sequence it is important that participants commit to attending the first three sessions as a minimum. Attendance by koha. (BTW its also a chance to get a bit of a glimpse of an award winning urban ecovillage). Register by email: .


Introduction to the Life is Wonderful Workshop


This fascinating new workshop explores the neuroscience of relationships. Often it seems as if we exist immersed in a sort of soup of our lives, emotions and relationships. But what if we could understand how our brain and nervous system actually works?


In fact we are, as a species, in the midst of an epic evolutionary struggle, with on the one hand the old parts of our brains trying to protect us from various paleolithic hazards, and yet on the other hand, our big new brains are attempting to realize cooperation and harmony and love (and safety) from being connected with others. Its a conflict that we need to understand in order to flourish as human beings, as humanity.


Our society historically has valued individuality, and independence, and yet the latest science now tells us that it is our social connections that are one of the most important keys to our health and well-being. This includes relationships of all kinds, be that romantic, family and friends, professional and community. But as most of us know, relationships can be challenging so we need to understand what is in the way of connecting, and how to connect safely.


In these unsettling pandemic times we need this knowledge and safety now more than ever.



Session   1.

Introduction to the Autonomic Nervous System.

Learn how our old brain is biased toward threat detection (being wary of others) (to keep us alive) while our newer brain structures specialize in managing relationships. The old sympathetic/parasympathetic model has now evolved, and offers us new insight into how to find well-being. Dr. Steven Porge's timely and important Polyvagal Theory anchors our exploration.

Session 2.

The Impact of Developmental Trauma

Recently science has shown us that adverse childhood events are in fact a significant cause of adult ill-health and disease. Our nervous systems lock in dysfunctional behavioral patterns that served to protect us as children, yet compromise our health and well-being as adults. The good news is that we no longer have to dredge up all the details of the past, nor do we have to heal on our own. The key is tapping into the wisdom of the body.

Session 3.


The reality of our evolution is that for modern mammals safety arises from connection. But, in order to connect we need to feel safe. Interesting! In this session we will learn about the "Social Engagement System", about cues of safety, body language, and the importance of touch.

Session 4.

Self-regulation & Co-regulation

Here we dig deeper into how the nervous system works, about emotions, empathy, resonance, and about partnering with our nervous system to be able to witness changes in our nervous system state, and how that leads us ultimately to a wider corridor of well-being.

Session 5.

Bonding and Love

This session gives an insight into how Attachment Theory has evolved and what it means for our intimate and pair bond relationships. Dependence is no longer a dirty word, as its now clear that we evolved to attach. Understanding your attachment type, and how to best work with it, and about bonding maintenance.

Session 6.

Communication, Conclusion

This session covers the essentials of communication, and then picks up the threads.


Bethells Valley
T- 020 41956904

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